Since same-sex marriage was legalized in the United States, industry experts said to expect both a marriage boom and a divorce bust. Though, for the decades since, same-sex divorce rates have stayed comparably lower than their opposite-sex counterparts. But, every year, it seems that those numbers begin to move closer. Indeed, given enough time, the divorce rates for all couples may begin to run hand-in-hand.
Divorce in any couple can look the same
For New York divorcees, the reasons behind their ultimate decision to part ways are likely very similar, regardless if that divorce was a same-sex or opposite-sex divorce. This is because, as we have seen over the years, couples are couples, regardless of who is in them. When a couple has children, their gender identity does not stop or inhibit the challenges that follow. Sleepless nights take their toll on every couple. As marriages continue, love can eb and flow, and sometimes, completely disappear as intimacy lags. These are issues that cause divorce. It does not matter if it is a same-sex or opposite-sex couple. And, the research is baring these facts out.
Differences between gay and lesbian divorce rates
However, where the numbers begin to diverge is when researchers look at gay (male-male) and lesbian (female-female) divorce rates. Lesbian divorce rates are much higher than gay divorce rates, and there really is only anecdotal evidence to explain why. Some women claim that the relationship had just run its course, and the two were ready to move on. Some say there was no reason to stay in an unhappy marriage. But, there does not appear to be consensus on why the divorce rates among same-sex couples is so divergent.
For our Long Island, New York, readers, if there is one takeaway from this post, it is that we are more alike than different, especially when it comes to divorce. And, we all should strive to find our best self and life. If we find that our marriages have run their course, of course, try to save them. Go to couples counseling and therapy. Try to make it work, especially if there are children involved. However, if the marriage has come to an end, it is time to let it go. Divorce is no longer a four-letter word, and everyone’s happiness is worth it.