Knowing what is real and what is not becomes difficult when the person you love becomes the source of your deepest fears. Gaslighting, a manipulative tactic used by abusers, can make you question your sanity. Understanding its dynamics is often the first step toward breaking free.
Gaslighting can make it hard for victims to walk away
Gaslighting often starts subtly but can escalate to severe psychological harm. Victims may experience:
- Constant self-doubt
- Confusion about their own memories
- Difficulty making decisions
- Low self-esteem
- Anxiety and depression
- Isolation from friends and family
In abusive relationships, gaslighting often accompanies other forms of abuse, such as physical violence or financial control. The combination of these tactics can make victims feel trapped, making it extremely difficult for them to recognize the abuse and seek help.
But there is hope. If you are suffering from an abusive relationship, you can take a safe exit and start rebuilding your life.
The law offers protection for victims
Domestic violence laws recognize various forms of abuse, including emotional and psychological abuse, such as gaslighting. The state offers protection orders and other legal remedies to help victims escape abusive situations.
New York law allows for fault-based divorce on grounds of cruel and inhuman treatment. Although not always easy to prove, gaslighting can fall under this category. Courts take instances of abuse into account when determining child custody, property division and alimony arrangements.
Documenting instances of gaslighting, such as saving texts and emails or keeping a journal, can be crucial evidence in a divorce proceeding. This documentation helps demonstrate a pattern of manipulative behavior to the court.
When considering divorce due to domestic violence, do not hesitate to work with an attorney. It takes time to heal, but support and legal guidance can make a difference.
