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Preparation is critical if you’re divorcing a narcissist

On Behalf of | Sep 2, 2025 | Divorce |

Living with a narcissist can feel like a fight for your life, but going through a divorce involving one is even more intense. The nature of a narcissist means that they are self-centered and live in a world fueled only by their own imagination. 

You can’t go into a divorce with a narcissist without proper preparation. Understanding how they work might make it easier to address the necessary points in the divorce.

Never show emotions

Narcissists thrive on being able to pull out emotions in other people. They will often use antics to do this, but you can’t fall for those. Instead, keep your cool while you’re in contact with the narcissist. Using alternative communication methods, such as texts or emails, may be more effective since it doesn’t require immediate responses. Instead, you can write out a reply and then review it to determine if it provides only vital information without any emotion.

Be prepared for delays

If your ex realizes that they can make you miserable and negatively impact your finances by dragging the divorce on, they will likely become more difficult than they were in the past. Being prepared for this may help you to determine a path to move forward. 

Document everything

Narcissists often twist facts to meet their own narrative. Because of this, it’s a good idea to document everything, including purchases, payments, conversations and anything else that might matter in the divorce. 

Getting the terms of a divorce set can be challenging, even if the split is amicable, but it becomes close to impossible if your ex is a narcissist. There are many things that you’ll have to think about during this process. Working with someone familiar with these matters may be beneficial since they can walk through everything with you. It’s critical to think about your future as you’re trying to determine how to proceed.