Divorces are hardly ever simple, but they become much more complex if you’re facing a divorce that involves a narcissist. A person who has narcissistic tendencies is self-absorbed, manipulative and controlling, all of which can bring contention to the divorce.
Understanding what to expect and how to prepare can make a difference in how you handle the divorce. This is particularly important when you consider the reality that a narcissist may try to drag the divorce on as long as possible simply because they want to cause you stress and impact your finances.
Document everything possible
Narcissists often try to distort facts to meet their version of reality, which is hardly ever realistic. Having proof of everything possible can help to take away the question about what’s going on. This is especially important for financial matters and things related to the children.
Switch to written communication
Using only written communication serves two purposes. The first is that it enables you to retain proof of the conversation. The second is that it removes the likelihood of you having an emotional reaction that gives the narcissist power. Both of these purposes can work in your favor.
Opt for detailed plans
Whether you’re dealing with the parenting plan or the property division order, having as much detail as possible is critical. Just as narcissists will make misstatements to suit their own needs, they will often try to re-interpret statements to suit their needs. Having everything thoroughly explained can reduce this risk.
Everything can become complex when a narcissist is involved in your divorce. Having someone on your side who understands the situation and can assist with protecting your rights is beneficial.
